Today I turn 55. Here's what I've been learning lately.
Take your meds. Accept your age and your limits and your need for help. People who care about you want you to take care of yourself so they can enjoy having you in the world as long as possible.
Play more. Invite others, and accept the invitations you get. A playful exchange can be just a few seconds, or a whole week. Don't miss out on the little ones while you're waiting for the big ones.
Habits, routines, rituals. These are the scaffolding of your life, and the value compounds. Motivation is highly overrated. More than anything, your habits are your life, so build ones you like. You'll be in motion before you have time to overthink. Then tough things aren't as tough, and good things are even better. Start, keeping starting, and the finishing will take care of itself.
Help someone feel better every day. Reinforce the things they like about themselves. Reframe or ignore the things they don't. If they begin sharing, invite them to tell you more, and then just listen. It doesn't take much, but we all want to be noticed and heard.
Say what you think you want, but know that you'll probably be wrong. Say it again. You'll get a little closer. Tell others, listen how it changes, and keep your antenna tuned to how you feel when you say it. Keep saying it, and over time you'll slowly circle towards the truth. All the while, be open to finding something you didn't expect but that turns out to be what you always wanted.
See the deep beauty in challenge and the uncertain. Without challenge, boredom shows up faster than most realize. And who wants to know their whole story before it happens?
Don't ever wish a day (a week, a year) was over. Time is the most precious of non-renewable resources. We get what we get, and no more. However, if you're ever feeling like you want to start over, then stop, i-n-h-a-l-e, e-x-h-a-l-e, reset, and start over. Don't wait.
1 + One. Zoom all the way in to the individual, and we're all unique, autonomous, and separate. Zoom all the way out to humanity, and we're all the same, interdependent, and together. The great dance of life is being true to both of those.
Share what you know. That's how we ended up here with running water and lights and cars and grocery stores and internet, instead of naked in a jungle in the middle of the night. People before us learned something, and then shared it, discussed it, improved it, bit by bit. It all adds up.
Better people have bigger problems. Why? When you improve yourself, you are better. When you are better, you can handle more things. When you can handle more things, you notice more things that need help handling. Better people have bigger problems.
Here's to trying to be more better, and solving bigger problems! I can't wait to see what's next.
Hi, I'm Scott Moehring
I'm a designer, teacher, writer, inventor, hockey player, gamer, and lifelong learner. I like to make cool stuff and share it with curious people.